Contrary to popular belief, suicides do not increase over the holiday season but actually peak in late July and August. We do not know why.
When life is full of sadness or depressing, having the thought that it would be easier if you were not here is normal for many people. But those passing thoughts at low times are vastly different from creating a plan and finding the means to end your own life. If this is where you are, please reconsider.
I have seen firsthand what damage taking your own life can do to those around you. It can ruin their lives, and for some who commit this devastating act, that’s the purpose, but there are many better ways to deal with life’s problems and issues.
Most of us go through dark times, have heartbreaking loss, and feel sadness for many reasons. Life is difficult, and that is a hard thing to hear and even a harder one to deal with. Yes, terrible things happen to us, but those who continue onward usually find that the darkness does end, and even though life may be different, it’s still your life, and you have the power to change many things that are not working for you at the moment.
Making your life better is not rocket science. If your satisfaction with life is dependent on being with another person, then you have a few choices. Seek that person out, and if he or she will have you, then you can join together on a lovely journey.
If you cannot be with the one you desire, then just being around good people will help you heal your pain and give you a reason for being.
Yes, helping others is great for your soul and emotional well-being, but what if you are the one that wants the help? This is why support groups exist. You get the opportunity to heal, learn from and help others, and even if you think that you have nothing to offer, your own story could inspire someone to make the same choice that you have made: to look for reasons to be here and act on them.
When you question whether or not you want to stay on the planet, it’s helpful to make a list of the things that you still like about living. I know that when someone is severely depressed, it can be daunting to find the beauty in a sunset or even in the smiles of your own children. This is why reminding yourself of what life has to offer is so important. Even if you can’t feel it, you can think it, and just keeping the thought in your head that things will be OK can get you through a low time and let you come out the other side.
The federal Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration funds a round-the-clock help line: 1-800-SUICIDE.